Finding Balance in Daily Life

by Dallas Woodburn

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about balance. One of my favorite quotes {which I might have shared on here before, I can’t remember} is from the late, great coach and teacher John Wooden. He said the two most important words in the English language are “love” and “balance.” I think that is so true, and yet balance can be really difficult to achieve. Especially in the fast-paced, multi-tasking-obsessed, constant-communication world we live in these days. It’s so easy to get sucked into the void of doing, doing, doing; more, more, more; faster, faster, faster.

Balance is something I am continually striving for. My work ethic is a quality I am really proud about, yet this is something that can easily slide off-balance. When that happens, I become a stressed-out, perfectionist workaholic. That is not who I want to be or how I want to spend my time!

So I’ve been taking some time each day to focus on balance. Find my center. Close my eyes, take a few deep breaths, and think of all the things I love about my life. I think about who I want to become. The hard work I plan to put in, the goals I want to accomplish–but also the fun things I wish to do, too. The places I want to travel. The fun books I want to read and movies I want to see and concerts I want to go to. The random treasures I want to take advantage of in everyday life: the awesome pinball arcade Mike & I stumbled upon, the nature trail along the river, the plethora of local restaurants we want to try out.

I’ve started to think about balance as a day-by-day thing, something I am working towards each and every day. For me, a good day does mean putting in two or three or four solid hours of work on my thesis draft. But it also means other things, too: relaxing with my sweetie on the couch watching an episode of The Wire; letting my mind wander while I try out a new dish in the kitchen; going for a long walk around the neighborhood; catching up with my family or friends on the phone; laughing till my stomach hurts over a hilarious video on YouTube; making my way through the stack of good books on my bedside table; and on, and on. A truly good day, to me, means a balanced day. I have discovered that I feel the most fulfilled and joyful and content when my life is balanced.

I saw this cartoon in a recent issue in The New Yorker and I wanted to share it here because it seems super appropriate not just to the theme of this blog, but also to the idea of balance. {Many thanks to my boyfriend Mike for helping me when the scanners at school tried to thwart my efforts!}



This cartoon made me smile, but it also gave me pause. I started my new organization blog because I wanted to become more organized in my daily life, while also saving money and time. But I never want organization to become a source of stress, or to feel pressure for perfection. My life and my apartment have become a little more organized in the past few months. I’m making progress. I’m trying new things and cooking more meals at home and flexing my newly developed decorating muscles. But my life will never be perfectly organized. I will never be that woman in the cartoon.

And I think that’s a good thing.

I’m not striving for perfection. I’m striving for balance. To me, love + balance = happiness.

What’s your happiness equation? How do you find balance in your busy life?

Dallas Woodburn is the author of two award-winning collections of short stories and editor of Dancing With The Pen: a collection of today's best youth writing. Her short fiction has been nominated for the Pushcart Prize three years in a row and her nonfiction has appeared in a variety of national publications including Family Circle, Writer's Digest, The Writer, and The Los Angeles Times. She is the founder of Write On! For Literacy and Write On! Books Youth Publishing Company and is currently pursuing her Master's degree in Fiction Writing at Purdue University, where she teaches undergraduate writing courses and serves as Fiction Editor of Sycamore Review. Many of her short stories are compiled online here.

F.E.A.R.

False
Evidence
Appearing
Real

I’ve suffered insomnia at times in my life and I know that fear can raise its ugly head during the wee hours when you are between awake and doze. You are most vulnerable then and negative things keep running through your mind in a continuous loop.

As writers, we all experience this to some degree at various stages of our work. First it might be “I can’t come up with an idea.” Then, after a great start where the story flows effortlessly, there is that sudden stop and “Oh no! Where do I go next? What if I can’t finish the story?” The fear seems real.

After you finish the story and polish it to a high sheen, then fear sets in again: “What if I can’t get it published? What if nobody likes it?” Any small word of critique becomes that F.E.A.R.

OK, say your book gets published and after the happy dancing and celebrating calms down, then next phase of fear sets in. “What if I’m a one-shot wonder? That was just a fluke. I’ll never be able to do that again.”

I’ve been there, done that—all of it. Fear is destructive and counter-productive. We all need to confront that Fear and talk it down. You know you are doing the best job you possibly can, and you WILL finish that WIP, and readers WILL like it!

Think positively, take the next step, and persevere. Don’t let fear rule your writing life.

Say What You Mean, Mean What You Say


It’s funny how we say things that we’ve heard all of our lives, but don’t give much thought as to the meaning of the phrase. Listed below are several of these cases in point. How many of these do you say wrong?


I could care less VS I couldn’t care less
What you think it means: "I couldn't care less."
What it actually means: You actually do care.

It begs the question
Would you think it means: To ask or raise a question
What it actually means: To use an argument that assumes as proved the very thing one is trying to prove.

Let's table this
What you think it means: To discuss something later
What it actually means: In the United States, it means what you think it does. But it means the exact opposite -- "let's discuss this right now" -- in most of the rest of the English-speaking world.

I did a 360 VS I did a 180
What you think it means: Completely changing your opinion.
What it actually means: Your opinion changed, but then changed back to your original opinion.

PIN number VS just PIN
What you think it means: A non-repetitive way to refer to your personal identification number
What it actually means: That you're being redundant. Especially when you use your PIN number at the ATM machine.

Lion's share
What you think it means: The greatest of multiple shares
What it actually means: The phrase originally comes from an Aesop's Fable in which the lion took all -- not the largest -- of the shares.

I am nauseous.VS I am nauseated.
What you think it means: I have a sick feeling in my stomach.
What it actually means: "I make other people sick," the correct term would have been "I am nauseated."




Here are some words that you'll see used incorrectly on a daily basis.

Irregardless

People think it means: Regardless.
Actually means: nothing.


Peruse

People think it means: To skim over or browse something.
Actually means: Almost the opposite of that.

Peruse means "to read with thoroughness or care." If you peruse a book, you leave no page unturned. This makes sense when you consider the Middle English per use, meaning "to wear out or use up."

Ironic

People think it means: Any kind of amusing coincidence.
Actually means: An outcome that is the opposite of what you'd expect.


Pristine

People think it means: "Spotless" or "as good as new."
Actually means: "Ancient, primeval; in a state virtually unchanged from the original."


Nonplussed

People think it means: Unperturbed, not worried.
Actually means: Utterly perplexed or confused. It comes from the Latin non plus (a state in which nothing more can be done).


Bemused

People think it means: Mildly amused.
Actually means: Bewildered or confused.


Enormity

People think it means: Enormous.
Actually means: Outrageous or heinous on a grand scale.


Plethora

People think it means: A lot of something.
Actually means: Too much of something, an over-abundance.

redundant
People think it means: useless or unable to perform its function                  
Actually means: an excess of something, that something is "surplus to requirements" and no longer needed, or that it is obsolete.

Here are some confusing combinations:
Your means "belonging to you."
You're is a contraction of "you are."


Whose/Who’s
Whose is an interrogative or relative pronoun.
Who’s is a contraction for “who is”.


Use who when it is the subject of the sentence,                                                               
whom when it is the object. Replace the word "who/whom" with "he/him." If "he" is correct, "who" is correct. If "him" is correct, "whom" is correct.


To indicates direction.
Too means "also."
Two is the number after one but before three.


Their is a possessive meaning "belonging to them."
There indicates position.
They're is a contraction of "they are."


that is specific,                                                                                  
whereas which is general.

Than is used when you're making a comparison between two or more things.                 
Then is used to indicate that something happens after something else, often with a cause-and-effect relationship. Also use after "if" clauses.

Sight/Site/Cite
Sight involves your eyes being able to see.                                                                    
Site is a location.                                                                                      
Cite is to give credit for a source

Sit/Set
When used as a verb, to set means "to place" or "to adjust to a value",                                     
whereas to sit means, "to be seated".

A roll is:
a small piece of bread                                                                                             
a piece of paper that has been turned into a tube                                                                             
a verb meaning "to turn (paper) into a tube"                                                                                
a verb meaning "to turn over and over"                                                                                
a list of people in a group
A role is a part in a play or the function you perform in a certain group.

A piece is a portion or fragment of something.                                                            
Peace is the opposite of war.                                                                                        
Peas are small green vegetables.

Past is an adjective meaning "before now." It is also a noun meaning "the time before now."
Passed is a past-participle form of the verb "to pass" meaning "to give" or "to move".
Some people also use it euphemistically for death; My father has passed.

More should be used when comparing exactly two things. For example: You have more ice cream than Martha.
Most should be used when comparing more than two things. For example: Sandy has the most ice cream in the room.

Lay means you have to lay an object.                                                                    
Lie means that it does not take an object; it is something a person does.                                    
However; lay is also the past-tense form of lie.                                                                  
The past-tense form of lay however is laid.

Isle/aisle
An isle is a small island in a string of small islands.                                                           
An Aisle is corridor through which one may pass from one place to another.

Imply/infer
Something is implied if it is a suggestion intended by the person speaking,                        
A conclusion is inferred if it is reached by the person listening.

Unlike most possessives, its does not contain an apostrophe.
But with its/it's you need to remember that an apostrophe often replaces a letter. If the word is it's, ask, "What letter has been removed?" The letter i from it is has been replaced by the apostrophe.

Hoard/horde
A hoard is a store or accumulation of things.                                                             
A horde is a large group of people.

Historic/historical
historic describes an event of importance—one that shaped history or is likely to do so. Historical merely describes something that happened in the past.

Hangar/hanger
The airplane is in the hangar; the coat is on the hanger.

Hang
To hang something or someone in the present tense, one uses the same form. In the past, however, pictures are hung and criminals are hanged.

well is an adverb; He did that well.                                                                  
good is an adjective; That was a good dinner.

Both these words mean "more far." Farther means “more far” in terms that can be measured.
Further refers to more abstract differences, like the difference between two people's points of view.

Emigration/immigration
Emigration is the process of leaving a country;                                                         
immigration is the process of arriving in a country.

Disinterested/uninterested
To be disinterested in something means to not be biased about something.                               
To be uninterested means to not be interested in or intrigued by something.

A desert is a dry sandy place.                                                                        
Dessert is the sweet stuff you generally eat after a meal.

Disburse/disperse
Disburse means "to give out", especially money.                                                  
Disperse means "to scatter".

Diffuse/defuse
To diffuse is to disperse randomly, whereas to defuse is to remove the fuse from a bomb, or in general to render a situation less dangerous.
Diffuse can also be used as an adjective, meaning, "not concentrated".

Dawn/sunrise
Dawn is frequently used to mean "sunrise", but technically it means the twilight period immediately before sunrise.

Assure/ensure/insure
To assure is to intend to give the listener confidence,                                         
to ensure is to make certain of,                                                                  
and to insure is to purchase insurance.

Altar/alter
An altar is a table or stand upon which religious ceremonies are performed.                   
Alter means "to change"

Acute/chronic
Acute means "sharp", as an acute illness is one that rapidly worsens and reaches a crisis.          
A chronic illness may also be a severe one, but it is long-lasting or lingering.

Affect is a verb meaning "to influence" or "to cause change in."
Effect is a noun meaning "the result or outcome."

Accept is a verb meaning "to agree to" or "to adapt to"
Except is a preposition or conjunction meaning roughly "unless" or "if not."






Walking Through Walls Finalist in CLC 2012 Book Awards


Walking Through Walls, a children's middle grade fantasy based on an ancient Chinese tale and set in 16th century China, received the Children's Literary Classics Seal of Approval earlier this year, and also won First Place in the Editors and Predators January 2012 Readers Poll (Children's Novel category). NOW, it's on the Finalist's list for the Children's Literary Classics 2012 Book Awards!

I'm thrilled!

Here's the Press Release the CLC distributed on October 1st:

NEWS
For Immediate Release
October 1, 2012

Literary Classics
info@clcawards.org

Literary Classics announces youth media award winners

RAPID CITY, SD - Literary Classics announced its 2012 selection of top book finalists for children and young adults today. The list includes finalists from entries received all over the world. The Literary Classics selection committee is proud to recognize the following titles in children's and young adult literature which exemplify the criteria set forth by the Literary Classics Awards committee.

A list of the 2012 award finalists follows:

Animalogy: Animalogy Analogies, Marianne Berkes
Fantastic Flight, Barbara Bockman
Black & White, Larry Dane Brimner
The King's Ransom, Cheryl Carpinello
Walking Through Walls, Karen Cioffi
Shield Maiden, Richard Denning
Terple Always Dream Bigger, Richie Frieman
Stalked, Kristiana Gregory
Return to Finkleton, KC Hilton
The Casting, Joyce Shor Johnson
Griffin Rising, Darby Karchut
The Reinvention of Moxie Roosevelt, Elizabeth Cody Kimmel
Drawn, Marie Lamba
A Box Story, Kenneth Kit Lamug
The Limit, Kristen Landon
Santa & The Little Teddy Bear, Peter John Lucking
Beautiful Wild Rose Girl, B. Magnolia
Bella & Harry Let's Visit Athens! Lisa Manzione
Bella & Harry Let's Visit Cairo! Lisa Manzione
Bella & Harry Let's Visit London! Lisa Manzione
Shelby & Shauna Kitt and the Dimensional Holes, PHC Marchesi
Caves, Cannons and Crinolines, Beverly Stowe McClure
Runaway Twins, Pete Palamountain
The Stone Child, Dan Poblocki
Clara's Great War, Evelyn Rothstein
In Memory of Dad, Maranda Russell
Young Funny and Unbalanced, David Smithyman
Sh Sh Sh Let the Baby Sleep, Kathy Stemke
The Crystal Ship, CJ Carter-Stephenson
The Great Divide, Suzanne Slade
One Pelican at a Time, Nancy Stewart
Sea Turtle Summer, Nancy Stewart
The Orphan Ship, Sterling R. Walker
My Sister is My Best Friend, Nicole Weaver

All final award levels and categories will be announced October 15, 2012.

Literary Classics, an organization dedicated to furthering excellence in literature, takes great pride in its role to help promote classic children's literature which appeals to youth, while educating and encouraging positive values in the impressionable young minds of future generations. Judging is based upon the criteria set forth by Literary Classics' highly selective awards committee which honors books promoting character, vision, creativity and learning, through content which possesses the key elements found in well-crafted literature.

The Literary Classics judging committee consists of experts with backgrounds in publishing, writing, editing, design, illustration, and book reviewing. To learn more about Literary Classics, visit their website at www.literaryclassicsawards.com.

ABOUT WALKING THROUGH WALLS:

Wang longs to be rich…and powerful. At twelve-years-old, he already knows more about the Eternals and their way of life than many of the adults in his village. Learning about these mystics takes his thoughts away from the possibility of working in the wheat fields all his life, like his father. Wang has far grander goals.

You can also check out these two reviews:

Review of Walking Through Walls by Amy Lignor

Review of Walking Through Walls by Kristin J. Johnson:

To get your copy of Walking Through Walls, go to:

AMAZON
BARNES & NOBLE
4RV Publishing

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I also want to say Congratulations and Good Luck to five children's authors on the Finalist's list who I know:

Barbara Bockman
Beverly Stowe McClure
Maranda Russell
Kathy Stemke
Nancy Stewart
Nicole Weaver

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If you're thinking of writing a children's book or already started, but seem to be stuck, check out Fiction Writing for Children. This 180 page ebook is also available as an ecourse:

Fiction Writing for Children - The eBook
http://www.karencioffi.com/fiction-writing-for-children-the-book/

Fiction Writing for Children - The eCourse
http://www.karencioffi.com/fiction-writing-for-children-the-ecourse/

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Karen Cioffi
Multi-award Winning Author, Freelance/Ghostwriter, Editor, Online Marketer
Writer’s Digest Website of the Week, June 25, 2012


Using Permalinks AND a Freebie Book Review Opportunity


Lots of the writers who use my free service at The New Book Review (http://TheNewBookReview.blogspot.com  ),  my alternative review opportunity, don't know how to use a permalink to extend the life of that promotion.
When they (or a reviewer) participates according to the guidelines in the left column of the blog, I send them a little tutorial on how to extend the exposure of appearing on The New Book Review. But those techniques, including information on permalinks, are important for anyone who must market--their services, their work, their talent.  This is what I tell them.

Here's what you do to take future readers specifically to this post on this blog:

·        Go to the blog www.thenewbookreview.blogspot.com.

·        Find your review.

·        Click on the title.

·        Go to the top of the page where the address appears in the address window. It will be longer than the one you see above and include part of the title of your post.

·        Copy it.

·        Take it to wherever you want to keep a permanent record of your review/promotions (like your Web site, blog, etc) and paste it.

Easy as that. (-:  And it's only polite to make it as easy on a future reader as possible to find what you want them to see.
 
PS: When you post on blogspot and need to give someone the permalink for you post, you'll find a convenient little link icon in the right column of the page you use to post. Click on it and voila! Even if you are pre-posting, the permalink will appear. You can copy, paste and, yesss! market to your heart's content!

~Carolyn Howard-Johnson is the author of the multi award-winning HowToDoItFrugally series of books for writers. She taught for UCLA Extension's renowned Writers' Program for nearly a decade, is an award-winning poet and writer of fiction, and was named Woman of the Year in Arts and Entertainment by members of the California legislature.  

NaNo: Pros and Cons


Above: One of my photo collages where I've manipulated the colors to look unearthly.

NaNo, National Novel Writing Month, is less than a month away. Have you ever taken part? Should you participate this year?

The goal for Nano is to write 50,000 words of a novel during the month of November. The words must be new, and you're not allowed to start writing until  November first. One can, however, plan.

But first, why do it in the first place? The 50,000 word goal means 1667 or so new words every day. That's an ambitious goal, especially if, like me, you have a day job.

The first year I did NaNo was 2010, and I decided to participate solely to overcome my phobia about writing science fiction. I'm a huge fan of the genre, and I've been reading since elementary school, so I could hardly claim unfamiliarity with the conventions. But I was intimidated by the world-building. In late September of 2010, I decided to take the plunge, and spent the next month mostly engaged in world-building. I spent a short amount of time on the plot: figured out my main character, his father, the father's boss, and several other characters who went out the window when I started writing. I had a page of plot notes, most of which, again, fell by the wayside once I started to write.

So I wrote the first draft, discovered a website with an awesome editing thing for January, signed up, spent from January through June editing, and actually had the novel accepted for publication. It came out in late July. I also wrote another novel for 2011 Nano, and yet another sometime in between. I'm still editing the latter two.

So what did I learn? Well, I had a heck of a good time, and I discovered that world-building wasn't as intimidating as I thought it was. I've learned something about my writing process. And I've learned that there's an awful lot to be said for simply showing up on the page. Is it at the top of my list of ways to improve my writing? No. Will I participate this year? I'm trying not to, as I want to finish editing the two I'm working on now. Will I end up heeding the siren-call of the new novel and new character I dreamed about a couple of nights ago? Only time will tell.

Margaret Fieland is the author of Relocated, available at major online booksellers and on the publisher's website

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Freelance Writing Work - The Possibilities


By Karen Cioffi

As most writers know, there isn’t much money in being an author; the money, if you can get a successful freelance writing business going, is in freelance writing work and ghostwriting.

There are so many different freelance writing and ghostwriting jobs you can do. But, to keep your target market focused and to strengthen your area of expertise, you should choose one or two specific types of writing. Offering too many varying services weakens your platform and your authoritative status.

It should be mentioned that you can also learn the copywriting ropes and create a copywriting business or simply include its techniques to enhance your own writing. But for now we’ll stick to freelance writing work, including ghostwriting, although some of the opportunities may require a bit of basic copywriting skills.

Freelance Writing Work You Can Choose From:

•    Magazine freelancer - writing and submitting articles to paying magazines
•    Writing for book publishers who accept freelance writers (you’ll need to query for a position)
•    News reporter
•    Feature writer for newspapers or magazines

•    Getting work from job boards
•    Editing and/or proofreading other writers’ work
•    Critiquing other writers’ work

•    Writing speeches
•    Writing content for websites
•    Writing content for newsletters
•    Writing articles and blog posts
•    Writing white papers or reports
•    Writing books, e-books, or pamphlets
•    Resume writing

•    Writing product descriptions or guides
•    Writing presentations
•    Technical writing
•    Educational writing
•    Instructional writing
•    Research writing
•    Legal writing

The list goes on and on.

Aside from the special skills needed for copywriting, all written content has the need for a writer. And, chances are there is someone, somewhere looking for some type of freelance writing work. It’s a matter of finding the work and attracting clients.

The important thing is to have your freelance writing business visible.

I had someone contact me to write a six to ten page report as part of a job application requirement. He was busy over the weekend and wouldn’t have time to do it himself. He found me through a Google search using ‘ghostwriter’ as a keyword. I don’t do rush jobs, so had to decline.

This is another aspect of freelance writing work that you may want to consider, there are some businesses that offer very quick turn around. People pay more money for a quick turn around.

Yet another point to make is that when someone contacts you for freelance writing work, and for whatever reason, you can’t do it, try to be helpful in some way; make a lasting impression. I gave the ‘job application guy’ some tips on what to look for in a qualified freelance writer and told him if he needed help down the road to give me a call.

So, you can see that if you’re out there, doing information marketing and building a quality business, it definitely helps in finding clients and garnering freelance writing work.

Karen Cioffi is an award-winning author, ghostwriter, and author/writer online platform instructor. Get must-know writing and marketing tips at http://thewritingworld.com.



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